When you have low self esteem and a negative perception of yourself, you are bound to experience a life filled with pain and frustrations--you will have a hard time building healthy and lasting relationships; you are unlikely to excel in your profession and you are at high risk of developing mental and behavioral problems. I personally have encountered some of these consequences; as a matter of fact, they were what made me decide to find a way to improve my self esteem.
However, improving my self esteem was not easy, and it was not an overnight process. It took years and a great deal of work to get my self confidence to a healthy level. It involved making a lot of changes and adjustments and countless moments of frustration and discouragement. Honestly, the journey towards better self esteem is a long, winding and bumpy one; nevertheless, the rewards are great.
Undeniably, there are so many things to do to successfully transform your self esteem, however, I suggest that you work on these three things first:
1. Start being more assertive. If you are one of those people who have acquired the habit of putting aside their own feelings, thoughts or needs for the sake of other people's happiness or satisfaction, then this tip is exactly what you need. Being passive and blatantly allowing the rights of others to be more important than your own fuels your feelings of low self worth. So stop being quiet and passive all the time and start asking for what you want and speaking up for yourself. Keep in mind that what you think and feel is no less important than anyone else's.
Choose your peers wisely. The people you choose to hang out with have a great influence on how you feel about yourself. I personally have witnessed this phenomenon. It’s like you mirror the mindset, attitude and behavior of the people around you. Thus, you need to be careful with your choice of peers. Stay away as much as you can from people who belittle you and make you feel bad about yourself. And foster stronger bonds with those people who respect you, value and appreciate your positive traits and help you come to terms with your flaws.
Eliminate depreciative self-beliefs. The self-limiting beliefs that are frequently repeating in your head considerably contributes to your feelings of inadequacy or incapacity. Doing away with these thoughts is one of the fundamental tasks for anybody who would like to raise his self esteem. Learn how to identify, challenge and refute these negative thoughts and you will see just how much you are truly capable of.
I don't think anyone wants to have low self esteem. Sadly though, experiences and circumstances that lead to the development of these deep-rooted emotional issues are generally beyond our control. Thankfully, our self esteem is not permanent--we can always work on improving it for the better. Start working on your self esteem today!