Numerous studies have confirmed that people who have low self esteem are likely to live unhappy and unfulfilled lives. Having struggled with low self esteem myself, I know exactly what these experts are talking about. Low self esteem has a profound effect on the quality of our lives. It makes you distance yourself from others, keep you from making full use of your abilities and put you at risk of developing behavioral and mental problems. In other words, low self esteem can deny you of some the best things in life—a happy relationship, a successful career and good health.
I am pretty sure no one wants to have a low self esteem. Although we have little control over the formation of our low self esteem, we are certainly have control over what to do with it—to let it stay as it is or improve it for the better. If you have decided to do the latter, allow me to help you get started on your journey through these simple tips on how to improve self esteem:
Make an effort to genuinely like yourself. Improving your self esteem is all about being able to appreciate yourself—your strengths, talents and abilities. You need to stop magnifying your flaws or weaknesses and start acknowledging all the positive things within you. You are free to do a mental list of your positive traits but I would say that putting things into writing is a much better option. Aside from adding things to your list and make sure to read it regularly to remind yourself of just how great you are.
Recognize your worth. In other to improve your self-esteem, you need to see that your are as important as any other person. If you have formed the habit of putting aside your needs, thoughts and emotions just to please others, then you need to stop that habit now. Learn to assert your worth and speak up what you want when you need to. If you don’t want to do something, say no. You can listen to others, but ultimately, do not let anybody force you into doing anything that you don’t want to do.
Set the right goals. How you set your goals can positively or negatively affect your self esteem. Accomplishments are said to be one of the best antidotes for low self esteem; and accomplishments stem from goals. However, some goals may lead to despair and frustration rather than a stronger self-confidence. That is why it is important to carefully consider the goals you set. To reduce chances of ending in frustration, formulate goals that are realistic, time-bounded and measurable. Have well-defined goals and work for their achievement.
Find people to support you. The journey towards a healthier self esteem can be long, rough and discouraging. That is why finding the right people to keep you company is important. Find people you trust most—people you know who are willing you help you get through hard times, support your efforts and push you back on track whenever you falter,